The 4 Levels of Leadership – John C Maxwell

john_c_maxwell_mainWhat’s the fastest way to understand how leadership works and to learn how to lead others? What’s the fastest way to teach it to others? Those are questions I’ve been asking myself for over 40 years. Maybe you’ve been asking yourself those kinds of questions, too.

To some people, leadership is intuitive. It comes fairly easily. They act on instinct; what they do works and they can’t easily explain it. To other people, leadership is a mystery. They have no idea what dynamics are at play. All they know is that sometimes people listen to what they have to say and work with them, and other times they’re alone scratching their heads.

Leadership is dynamic. It’s fluid. It changes from person to person, from moment to moment. But that doesn’t mean it doesn’t follow a pattern. And it doesn’t mean you can’t develop a level of mastery, even if you don’t possess abundant natural leadership gifts.

I want to acquaint you with a way of looking at and teaching leadership that I’ve used to train leaders for nearly 30 years. It’s called The Five Levels of Leadership. It is by far the most requested topic people want me to speak about—from small teams to huge corporations like Delta Airlines. And I’ve finally written a book about it that teaches a potential leader how to move from an entry-level position to the pinnacle of leadership.

Here’s how it works. Influence is gained with people in levels—five levels to be exact. Every person who leads others has to start at the bottom level with another person and work his or her way up to higher levels one at a time.
Level 1—Position

Position is the lowest level of leadership—the entry level. The only influence a positional leader has is that which comes with the job title. People follow because they have to. Positional leadership is based on the rights granted by the position and title. Nothing is wrong with having a leadership position. Everything is wrong with using position to get people to follow. Position is a poor substitute for influence.

People who make it only to Level 1 may be bosses, but they are never leaders. They have subordinates, not team members. They rely on rules, regulations, policies and organizational charts to control their people. Their people will only follow them within the stated boundaries of their authority. And their people will usually do only what is required of them. When positional leaders ask for extra effort or time, they rarely get it.

Positional leaders usually have difficulty working with volunteers, younger people and the highly educated. Why? Because positional leaders have no influence, and these types of people tend to be more independent.

Position is the only level that does not require ability and effort to achieve. Anyone can be appointed to a position.
Level 2—Permission

Level 2 is based entirely on relationships. On the permission level, people follow because they want to. When you like people and treat them like individuals who have value, you begin to develop influence with them. You develop trust. The environment becomes much more positive—whether at home, on the job, at play or while volunteering.

The agenda for leaders on Level 2 isn’t preserving their position. It’s getting to know their people and figuring out how to get along with them. Leaders find out who their people are. Followers find out who their leaders are. People build solid, lasting relationships.

You can like people without leading them, but you cannot lead people well without liking them. That’s what Level 2 is about.
Level 3—Production

One of the dangers of getting to the permission level is that a leader will stop there. But good leaders don’t just create a pleasant working environment. They get things done! That’s why they must move up to Level 3, which is based on results. On the production level leaders gain influence and credibility, and people begin to follow them because of what they have done for the organization.

Many positive things begin happening when leaders get to Level 3. Work gets done, morale improves, profits go up, turnover goes down and goals are achieved. It is also on Level 3 that momentum kicks in.

Leading and influencing others becomes fun on this level. Success and productivity have been known to solve a lot of problems.
Level 4—People Development

Leaders become great not because of their power, but because of their ability to empower others. That is what leaders do on Level 4. They use their position, relationships and productivity to invest in their followers and develop them until those followers become leaders in their own right. The result is reproduction; Level 4 leaders reproduce themselves.Leadership-Ladder-lg

Production may win games, but people development wins championships. Two things always happen on Level 4. First, teamwork goes to a very high level. Why? Because the high investment in people deepens relationships, helps people to know one another better and strengthens loyalty. Second, performance increases. Why? Because there are more leaders on the team, and they help to improve everybody’s performance.

Level 4 leaders change the lives of the people they lead. Accordingly, their people follow them because of what their leaders have done for them personally. And their relationships are often lifelong.
Level 5—Pinnacle

The highest and most difficult level of leadership is the pinnacle. While most people can learn to climb to Levels 1 through 4, Level 5 requires not only effort, skill and intentionality, but also a high level of talent. Only naturally gifted leaders ever make it to this highest level. What do leaders do on Level 5? They develop people to become Level 4 leaders.

Developing leaders to the point where they are able and willing to develop other leaders is the most difficult leadership task of all. But here are the payoffs: Level 5 leaders develop Level 5 organizations. They create opportunities that other leaders don’t. They create legacy in what they do. People follow them because of who they are and what they represent. In other words, their leadership gains a positive reputation. As a result, Level 5 leaders often transcend their position, their organization and sometimes their industry.

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REALIZING YOUR DREAMS – DR. MYLES MUNROE

myles munroeI Have a Dream!
If you have a dream, or if you want to discover your vision, remember this: God loves dreamers. He gives visions, and He is attracted to people who love to dream big. Don’t forget that you are unique, special, and irreplaceable.

You are not meant to be like anyone else.

When you decide to be part of the norm, your destiny is shortchanged. God wants you to stir up the gift He has given you and to develop it to the fullest.

Take a Lesson From The Winners and Doers…
What is the difference between the dreamer who realizes his dream, and the dreamer whose dream becomes a nightmare of unfulfilled hopes?

The dreamer who succeeds is someone who has a clear vision and acts on it. As long as a person can hold on to his vision, then there is always a chance for him to move out of his present circumstances and toward the fulfillment of his purpose.

Living Your Life’s Vision!
If you feel trapped, underemployed, or underutilized in your job; if you own your own business and want it to grow; if you want to know how to pursue your goals in life; if you are the leader of an organization or group; if your children are grown or in school now, and you are considering reviving old interests, or wherever you are in life right now, my desire is that you will be inspired, motivated, and challenged to get back in the race toward your dream, to get back the passion toward your goal.

I want you to achieve your greatest in God’s purpose for your life. I want you to get off the rocking horse and find a living stallion— your life’s vision.

To do this, you need to understand and put into practice principles that transcend current trends and even conventional wisdom.

In this way, your success will not be dependent on the state of the economy, what careers are currently in demand, or what the job market is like. You will not be hindered by what people think you are capable of or your initial lack of resources.

Take Your Life Out of Neutral!
You are the sum total of the choices and decisions you make every day. You can choose to stay where you are, or you can choose to pursue your dream. I challenge you to stop making excuses for why you can’t accomplish what you were born to do.

Take your life out of neutral.achieve-dreams

You possess the power and the responsibility to determine your future and destiny. Remember, you were created to accomplish something that no one else can accomplish.

Never expect anything less than the highest thing you could go after. Don’t let people tell you, “You shouldn’t have high expectations.” Dream big.

No matter how challenging it gets, don’t give up, because your vision is the key to fulfilling your life’s purpose.

SET UP FOR A COME BACK! – LES BROWN

Les-Brown-Photo2Regardless of what has happened to you or what you’re going through right now…know this truth with everything in you ~ you are going to get through this. Hold on to your dream!! If you’ve lost your job or house; run out of money; your relationship is on the rocks; or you’re sleeping in your car and you feel that God has turned his back on you…hold on to your dream !!! This setback is only a setup for your comeback.

Dig in and come out swinging with a vengeance. Fight a good fight. Being happy, healthy, and prosperous is in your DNA. No matter what happens to you…never stop looking for ways to enjoy life, and express gratitude for the fact that you’re still here. You have another new day to appreciate life. You were born to win. Ain’t no stopping you now. You got this!! Believe that your life can and will get better…because you have something special…you have GREATNESS within you

There Is A Price For Every Prize – Uju Onyechere

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He was just beginning his career as a lawyer; he took a case for a fee of $20. The case turned out to be a very difficult one, and in preparing for it, he had to make a trip to Boston, which in itself cost more than he was going to earn as a fee. He was determined, however, to do a thorough job on the case and win it, which he did. In retrospect, it seemed like a small case, but at the time, it was a big victory. Years later, a large company approached him on short notice, asking him to undertake a case for which they were willing to pay a very handsome fee – in fact, a fee quite stunning at the time. As he reviewed the case, he found that it was almost identical to the one he had researched and won nearly twenty years before for the fee of only $20. Daniel Webster took the case, and just as before, the verdict was in favour of his client.

One of our international lecturers in Benson and Edwards Public Speaking Academy who was handling Developing Content told participants that one of the reasons why people hardly make good writers or good speakers is because many do not have the patience for research. The culture of research and preparation is still alien to us.

Today a lot of young people parade themselves as public speakers just because of recognition, fame and fortune. Not that there is anything wrong with that, but how prepared are they? What have they achieved as a measure to motivate others? Some don’t even know the difference between public speaking and motivational speaking, for them it is one and the same. Such people are merely shooting themselves on the leg. According to Cavett Robert “Don’t be in too much of a hurry to promote, until you get good. Otherwise, you just speed up the rate at which the world finds out you’re no good.”cavette robert

There is a price for every prize. According to Sam Adeyemi “Nothing pays until you pay. Every prize has a price-tag.” He went on to add, “Preparation is the key to recognition. And recognition is the key to promotion.” How many of us are willing to pay the price? How many of us can devote time, attention and resources like Daniel Webster?

To devote time in preparation means to have a teachable spirit. When you don’t prepare before lunching out, the world is observing. In whatever you do, remember that you are not the only one, there are countless others who are also in that field ready to swallow you. It was Lance Armstrong who said, “There’s always somebody who can come in and be better than you, this you cannot factor in, but we can control those things we can and that is our preparation.”

In my seminars and other presentations, the question “How did you start?” often comes up. After my first degree, I spent years reading, researching and attending seminars, as if my life depended upon it. And it really did.

Do the things that you need to do today so that when the opportunity comes, you will grab it with both hands. Smith Wigglesworth warns, “If you are trying to get ready when you are supposed to be ready, you are already late.”

To our success!

AND SO MANCHESTER UNITED DID IT AGAIN! – DR. WALE AKINYEMI

dr akinyemiAnd so Manchester United did it again.

With a brilliant performance against Aston Villa they clinched their 20th title.

Anytime I watch good football, I see so many lessons that we can learn.

First, think of all the people who would want to be in that winning team but could not make it because they do not have the required level of skill. There is no substitute for being the best. Invest in yourself. Practice, practice and practice. Practice when no one sees. Prepare for opportunities that no one else can see so that when the opportunity shows up, you are ready.

Secondly, remember that winning does not happen because of one single kick. While it is true that one FINAL kick produced the goal but it was a FINAL kick. It was the end result of consistent passing the ball, kicking, passing and kicking again. All this is going on when the other team is working desperately to stop you and to keep you down. You have to remain focused and consistent in a very hostile environment. This is the story of life. So many obstacles are working to keep you down – the greatest of which is your past experiences, thinking and attitudes. Feelings of unworthiness, of inadequacy and inferiority added to the mix mess potentially great people up big time!

Friends, if anyone deserves to succeed, you do! Remember that for all those working hard to keep you down, you have people who are also working hard to ensure that you win. They are your team – people who share the same dream as you. Make sure you always remember that you cannot do it alone. You need a team – a network of success. Finally make sure you have a great coach – someone whose past is your future, whose experience is your expectation.

Manchester-United-logoHave a fulfilled day!

MULTIPLE STREAMS OF INCOME – JOSHUA VALENTINE

If you have been wanting to learn how to generate money for yourself, and not just a little money, but a great deal of money, then you will want to find out more about streamsthis investment wizard. Mr. Robert Allen is one of the most influential men of the century in describing ways to make money in the field of real estate.

He has two books that your should read entitled, Multiple Streams of Income and Multiple Streams of Internet Income. He also offers CD programs entitled The Road to Wealth and Multiple Streams of Income. These programs offer the buyer many ideas and tips on how to get your share of the money that is to be made in both real estate and in the online marketplace. One of his biggest selling books is called Nothing Down Real Estate and this is the book that guaranteed Mr. Allen his place on the A list.

Thousands of people have ordered these books and taken seminars or classes from Mr. Allen and have come away as winners. You can read for yourself numerous testimonials from satisfied and happy students who took advantage of the information that Robert G. Allen is able to share. He is not afraid to show you that his methods do work and you can become wealthier than you dreamed possible in just a few short weeks or months.

Robert Allen has been on Good Morning America, Larry King Live and the Regis Philbin Show, and he has shared his methods with people in these audiences who have turned around and made tens of thousands of dollars for themselves. One man made over 15,000 dollars in less than 10 weeks using the investment methods that were told to him by Robert Allen. There are many of these instances documented which gives further credence to the statements made by Mr. Allen which concern how easy these methods are for anyone to be able to use.

He has an ongoing challenge now that he can show you how to go to any online computer and make almost 1000 dollars an hour for 24 hours using his methods. Robert Allen has actually shown reporters and skeptics alike that this is possible. He was able to show doubting reporters that he could buy almost 1 million dollars worth of real estate with nothing down while they were with him to document his progress every step of the way.

If you have been looking for someone who can show you the correct steps to making the money of a lifetime, Robert G. Allen is the man who can do it. He has taught these strategies to over 150,000 people at seminars and classes around the country and he can teach them to you.

Joshua Valentine is a top internet marketer who works with industry leaders from around the world. He has a passion for helping others achieve their goals, dreams and aspirations.

 

Mrs Iweala and Nigeria’s Yahoo Yahoo Image – LEKE ALDER

ngozi_okonjo_iweala1Let me begin by stating that the name of the Minister of Finance and Coordinating Minister of the Economy was not included in the header to this article because of any malfeasance or untoward behavior on her part. She is a well-regarded professional whom I have had the privilege of consulting for.

Since I started writing about the challenges confronting our dear nation, I have sought to domicile responsibility for solutions to particular ministries of the republic; otherwise the issues will be fatherless and motherless. Government is huge and the challenge of Nigeria’s image is multifaceted. Without domiciliation the topic will be lost in the byzantine maze of government. The scope of this article makes a facet of Nigeria’s image challenge a responsibility Mrs. Iweala can accommodate within her ministerial schedule. I seek to appeal to the peculiar advantage of her coordinating portfolio. I am very confident of Mrs. Iweala’s capabilities and I know she will do something. Of course I could have written her directly, but that would defeat the purpose of writing these articles. No doubt Government has the major role to play in solving our national problems but so do we as citizens. When we throw ideas into the areopagus we instigate national will and galvanize citizen responsibility.

Nigeria’s Yahoo Yahoo image is killing her economy. Things are spiraling out of control and sociological wreckage is being wrought. It has often been said that Nigerians are not loyal to their country and that they badmouth their nation. With this premise, the Department of National Orientation has run programs to inculcate patriotism in our citizens and direct our youths. The results are not empirical. Nigerian film producers and entertainers have borne the brunt of condemnation from certain quarters in government. They are accused of portraying their country unflatteringly in movies and lyrics. My thought on that is that we’re barking up the wrong tree. Art is what it is. It resonates more when it is a commentary on reality. Or else it becomes distasteful propaganda worthy of origination from the hermit kingdom of North Korea. When art takes on propaganda form it loses credibility. It cannot maintain an honest audience. Our Village Headmaster, the then longest running soap opera on TV disappeared into the fog of history when it became a megaphone of “national orientation”. So did the Masquerade. The Masquerade died! Civil servants must not write scripts for soap operas; neither must they dictate ideas. It is a mismatch of calling and capabilities.SRILANKA-ECONOMY-WORLDBANK

Nigeria has a very bad image abroad. When a nation has a bad reputation there will be collateral damage and the first casualty is patriotism. Because a bad national image casts a dark halo on the citizens, they will not want to identify with their country. The image subtracts from their intrinsic worth. They are thus forced to rely on their personal equity in different situations and they soon begin to question the value of their country to them. Nations provide valuation platforms for their citizens. The man from Japan is rated highly in the eyes of the world because of his nation’s output as well as functioning state institutions and the prevalence of the rule of law. By the same token, a German is rated highly for the mechanical, ethical and legal output of his nation. Corruption is abhorred and the democratic and regulatory institutions function correctly. Our national identity cannot augment our valuation as Nigerians because of the negative reputation of our fatherland. This is because our primary output as a nation is apparently advance fee fraud, not oil, and our systems and institutions are deemed malfunctioning and corrupt. Our passport is thus a liability at customs checkpoints and the innocent are banded with criminals. This generalization takes a toll on patriotic sentiments. Citizens don’t idolize a nation that subtracts from their worth, or shuts the door of opportunity against them, or makes them a pariah at international borders. And when a Nigerian succeeds he feels he did it by himself and despite his country. Thus he owes his nation no allegiance. This probably explains why some international footballers of Nigerian origin refuse to play for their country, and why some don’t take the assignment as seriously as when they play for their clubs. They play for Nigeria not because they really want to but because they are afraid of national ill will. And for some there is no other national platform. You can’t get the best from such people. Their hearts and souls are not in it. That said, we must also state that there have been and there are very patriotic Nigerian footballers.

Are we by this article justifying lack of patriotism? Of course not! But we must ask the right questions in order to arrive at the right solutions. If you want to solve a problem you must truthfully examine the issues.

Nigeria suffers from four image afflictions (In my line of work we call them “brand eroders”). They are corruption, online credit card fraud (cybercrime), fundamentalist terrorism and kidnapping. These constitute the ordinance against the country.

The four can be broadly categorized into two classes – the violent class and the economic class. Kidnapping and fundamentalist terrorism belong to the violent class. They tend to play grandly on the national stage but cybercrime is the most democratized of these eroders. It is a huge retail enterprise, precisely because the barrier to entry is low. A cyber criminal can run his operations entirely from a business center. Anyone with a modem and a computer, or smartphone can launch into business. And it has gone industrial. There are now cybercrime factories – rows and rows of young men and women in huge spaces, dedicated to online criminal pursuit on computer notebooks. The damage to the nation has been incalculable. The problem with cybercrime is that whilst other crimes are domiciled within Nigerian borders, cybercrime is a global phenomenon. And irony upon irony, the movie and entertainment industry of the targeted nations have reciprocated our affection with inglorious mentions. The scriptwriters of popular television series like Law & Order and House have elevated our collective patrimony into the annals of cultural infamy. We are systematically being shut out of the global economic system because of the activities of these aberrant cyberpreneurs. Today Nigeria is not listed on the drop down menu of Paypal, the global online payment platform. Neither can we shop on Macy’s, Target, J.C Penney and Marks & Spencer, to name a few. We can’t even buy antivirus software for our computers. Kaspersky shut us out. We are suffering from economic blockade, not unlike Iran; it’s just that ours is the market driven variety. If truth be told, a 419er is an economic terrorist. He is waging an economic war against his country.Ngozi- Okonjo-Iweala3

Trust is a global economic currency. Our young men and women cannot access cheap finance through credit cards for their business start-ups. They are not afforded the opportunity of “maxing out their cards” to get their dreams off the ground. The maxing out of credit cards is a celebrated lore of entrepreneurship. Even our debit cards are not accepted by international merchants! Debit cards! Once the transaction originates from Nigeria a virtual steel door clamps down. Those who take the risk of online transactions from Nigeria put us through such strenuous processes it defeats the very purpose of online purchase. And our internet transactions are being routed through South Africa with its attendant consequences on national sovereignty. We are running a huge national security risk piggy-backing on South African economic infrastructure. We are becoming a subsidiary nation. And this to people we liberated! Surely the cost of going through a national economic middleman is huge.

The elites have found a way round the credit card blockade. They simply travel abroad and use a foreign merchant card. They take care of themselves but how myopic! The elites constitute an insignificant numeric percentage of the national population. We have a huge mass of youths vying to join the global economy via the cheapest avenue possible (the internet) but they are shut out because of the nation’s bad reputation. There will be consequences. For one, the youths will become more desperate and take ever more unwholesome routes in pursuit of opportunities; our negative image is thus reinforced by an army of disenfranchised youths. Two, they will hate those that are privileged and their sense of rage will morph into other criminal activities against the privileged. Three, they will lose faith in the maternal instincts of the nation afterall the nation is not helping them. Four, as those who succeed by devious means flaunt their ill-gotten wealth and invariably take up the political positions they bought with their loot, a signal is sent into the generational pool that “making it” through criminal device is the way to go. Five, the youths will become a dangerous arsenal in the hands of the wrong commander-in-chief. When you extinguish hope there is nothing left. Six, crime becomes normative, expected and required. It becomes an affirmation of basic humanity.

What should be done? How can we redeem our image and remedy the situation?

We need a four-pronged strategy: eliminate, repair, discourage, prevent.

We must eliminate cybercrime factories. Government must erect an equivalent anti-cybercrime factory full of hackers and trackers and servers to fight online criminal pursuit. It is a national security risk. And by the way, setting up this factory will provide employment to many of our computer science graduates. If we are serious, we should see a major drop in cybercrime within 9 months.

We must also activate a discouragement strategy. First we must pass the cybercrime bill before our legislators. We must prosecute criminals under the law and make an example of cyber criminals. With the passage of the law, we signal to the international community that we are serious about curtailing cybercrime.
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Our repair strategy dictates that we mend our relationship with the international merchant community. We need to undertake economic diplomacy. And this is where Mrs. Iweala can better deploy her skills, experience, network and portfolio. No ministry in government has the latitude to solely handle the cybercrime problem. It will take the coordinated efforts of several government departments to do economic diplomacy. The following ministries and agencies must be coordinated to deliver the repair solution: Ministry of Finance, the Central Bank, Ministry of Foreign Affairs, the EFCC, Ministry of Trade & Investment, Ministry of Justice and Ministry of Science and Technology. In conjunction with representatives from the private sector, Bankers Committee and trade associations, an economic diplomatic offensive can be launched. This diplomatic collective must meet the major retailers and make a case for Nigeria. The amount Nigerians spend abroad on a yearly basis gives us economic clout. It can be leveraged. The Ministry of Foreign Affairs will of course coordinate the nations politically. And that ministry has performed creditably in recent times. The Nigeria-South Africa deportation face-off is but one example. Our diplomats know a thing or two about diplomatic arm-twisting. The idea of a government/private sector diplomatic offensive is not new. Frank Nweke Jnr. as Minister of Information achieved a renegotiation of Premier League broadcast rights taking such an approach. And I know that the meeting with global merchants is feasible and will yield results because my company recently advised a bank client on this issue and there was a resolution.

But prevention is always cheaper than cure. We need to re-orient our youths and create opportunities for them. They must not feel entombed. In this regard the Ministry of Youth Development, the National Orientation Agency and the Ministry of Education have a role to play. So does the Ministry of Sports. We need a nationally directed mentorship scheme. The state must identify the people our youths look up to, the people they respect, for their values, their roles in society, their success, diligence and hard work. These must be promoted as youth ambassadors. Let the youths determine their mentors based on those parameters. That’s how it works in real life. The youths know their mentors. These people must share their stories. There’s nothing like a testimonial. The stories should be distributed using digital platforms. These kids live on the internet. Interactivity must be promoted. Cyber town hall meetings and mentoring sessions must be arranged. Offline empowerment and inspirational seminars must be organized. In addition, our school curricula must reflect our realities. We need to teach our kids to create jobs rather than waiting for jobs. I am aware that the Ministry of Education is planning to introduce entrepreneurship into secondary school curriculum. That is a step in the right direction.

Religious organisations have a role to play too. Our religious infrastructure (churches and mosques) is Nigeria’s social security system. They instruct our youths in righteousness, run drug rehabilitation programs, poverty alleviation programs, sex worker reformation programs, orphanages and hospitals, and they organize sporting programs for our youths. One or two have acclaimed football clubs and academies. Government must partner with them. It’s the sensible thing to do. They are doing what government should be doing.

And parents have a role to play too. As do our teachers. We must be worthy examples to our children. You cannot facilitate exam malpractice for your ward and turn around to complain about Nigeria. You are a hypocrite!leke alder

Society is a dynamic. We will never reach a point in which cybercrime is non-existent. The image of nations is not defined by the absence of negatives. It is determined by the positive exertions of its government and citizens. And with that I say over to you Mrs. Iweala!

THE POWER OF MENTORING – SAM ADEYEMI

SAM ADEYEMI 3Wisdom is the principal thing, therefore get wisdom, and with all your getting, get understanding.

Wisdom is one of the most powerful forces on earth. It is the difference between failure and success; between poverty and prosperity; between defeat and victory; between stagnation and promotion.

We are discussing a vital key to wisdom, MENTORING.

King Solomon in the Bible had a remarkable dream. God told him to ask for anything he desired. Solomon asked only for wisdom. This was God’s reply; “Because your greatest desire is to help your people, and you haven’t asked for long life, but for wisdom and knowledge to properly guide my people, yes, I am giving you the wisdom and knowledge you asked for. And I am also giving you such riches, wealth and honour as no other king has ever had before you!”

You see, the wisest king in the Bible was also the wealthiest. Wisdom is powerful.

You Too Can Have Access To The Wise

Now, you may not encounter God in a dream like Solomon, but you can have access to wisdom too. One of the proverbs of King Solomon says, “He that walks with the wise will be wise, but the companion of fools will be destroyed.”

You too can receive wisdom through association with the wise. I call that Mentoring. It is also known as Coaching.

Dear friend, God has positioned mentors around you to minimize your mistakes and maximize your potential for success. Learn from them and get ready to rise to the top.

Mentors inspire us.

Mentors enhance our speed in life.SAM ADEYEMI 4

Mentors are our gates to greatness.

We are wise when we admit that there are people who know better than we do, and we learn from them.


Three Dimensions To Mentoring

1.         Parental Mentoring

Parents have the responsibility for grooming children for future success in their adult life. Our greatest heritage from our parents is wisdom, and God’s grace on their lives.

2.         Professional Mentoring

This is the acquisition of wisdom from teachers, employers, and those who have excelled in our chosen line of career.

3.         Pastoral Mentoring

This is the acquisition of the wisdom of God through our spiritual leaders. Several people in the Bible prospered through their relationships with ministers of the gospel.

Who Is Your Mentor

Now, in a mentoring relationship, the one who provides the wisdom is known as the mentor. The one who receives is known as the mentee or protégée.

Dear friend, who is your mentor? Archbishop Benson Idahosa once said; “If someone has achieved ten times what you are trying to achieve once, the person knows something you don’t know.”


Productive and Non- Productive Protégées

Some protégées are passive. They leave all the initiative to the mentor. They do not pursue their mentors. They do not ask probing questions. Such protégées do not get much out of a mentoring relationship.Sam-Adeyemi2

Other protégées are parasites. They only want to take advantage of the mentor. They take advantage of the mentor’s name, influence and money. They do not want to pay the price for developing themselves. And just in case the mentor corrects them, they move away.

Lastly, there are protégées who are productive. They take full advantage of the mentoring relationship and carefully apply the wisdom that they derive from it.

Let me describe some qualities of productive protégées:

1.         They invest whatever it takes to maintain contact with their mentors.

2.         They respect the advice of their mentors.

3.         They freely discuss their greatest dreams with their mentors.

4.         They discuss their fears and challenges with their mentors.

5.         The sow seeds of appreciation into the lives of their mentors.

Productive protégées publicly acknowledge and honour their mentors.  Ultimately, good protégées step into the shoes of their mentors. They become mentors themselves.

Your mentor is your doorway to the future. God will lead you and connect you with those who will bring out the best in you.  Your mentor is a preview of your future.

Qualities Of An Exceptional Mentor

1.     A mentor invests time with the protégée. Communicating wisdom requires time.

2.   Exceptional mentors usually create exceptional protégées. Like begets like

3.      The exceptional mentor measures the passion of his protégée by his pursuit of the mentor. The proof of desire is pursuit. Sometimes, a protégée needs a strong desire and perseverance to get the attention of his mentor.

4.        A mentor knows precisely the path that the protégée must tread to make it to the top. He can analyse his own success and pass on the principles that helped him to the top. He can teach also from his past mistakes.

5.    A mentor is honest enough to correct the protégée even at the risk of being misunderstood and alienated by the protégée.

6.  A mentor can often identify weaknesses in the protégée that has the potential to result in a pitfall.

7.         A mentor exposes fraudulent people to his protégée. Christ warned His disciples repeatedly about the Pharisees.

8.         The exceptional mentor desires for his protégée to go further than he has gone. “He who believes me, the works that I do shall he do and greater works than these shall he do …”

9.         The exceptional mentor is not threatened by the success of his protégée. Rather, he considers it as part of his own success.

Dear friend, ask God to direct you to mentors whose wisdom will bring divine acceleration to your destiny. Also, remember that success without a successor is failure. Pass on what you know. I believe this will be the most exciting day so far.

It is good for you to have mentors in business, marriage, career, and ministry. They will inspire, challenge and guide you. Read their books, listen to them. Experience, they say, is the best teacher. Yet it is better and cheaper to acquire wisdom through the experience of others. I pray, that God will help you move away from those who will divide and subtract from you and bring into your life those who will multiply and add to you.

On the other hand, are you in a position to mentor others? You see, poor protégées hardly become excellent mentors. If God has lifted you, are you a mentor? Are you passing on your wisdom to someone? Are you a mentor as a parent or as a professional? Mentoring changes lives. You can multiply your success. When you help others to rise, you will not go down yourself.

About Sam Adeyemi: Sam Adeyemi is unarguably Nigeria’s No 1 success coach and one of the country’s leading experts on personal development and self mastery. Thousands of lives have been transformed through his inside-out coaching programme.

It Is Your CHOICE – TONY ROBBINS

Tony-Robbins2What is the single force that shapes the quality of our lives? What power do we have that can change everything? As you and I both know, the answer is the power of choice.

During the past 30 years I’ve had the privilege of working with an incredibly diverse group of people, from presidents of countries to professional athletes, from managers to moms, from gang members to high-powered business executives. I’ve had the unique opportunity to see people in the midst of real challenges, whether it’s the professional athlete who wants to regain his competitive edge, the business leader who wants to expand her influence or the political leader who struggles with a difficult decision. I may not have all the answers (who does?), but after working with so many people and observing the patterns that make them succeed or fail, one thing I am sure of is this: It is our decisions, not our conditions, that determine the quality of our lives.

Take a look at your own life. Are you where you want to be? Are you as healthy or financially secure or as happy in your relationships as you would like to be? Or, even if things are going well, are you looking for that extra edge to retain the competitive advantage? Perhaps you feel that in spite of your success, there’s more out there for you, but for some reason, you haven’t grasped it yet. Your first instinct may be to blame the economy, or the housing market, or someone who has treated you unfairly.

Before we go any further, we need to understand that we are where we are today because of the decisions we’ve made—decisions about what to focus on, decisions about where to place our priorities, decisions about what things mean and decisions about what to do. For example, if your business or career has been affected by the recession, do you feel that you are being punished or challenged to find a new path? What are you going to do about it? Are you going to give up or give more? No matter what we have experienced in the past, our history is not our destiny—we all have the power to make new decisions today.

Here’s another way to look at it: Success is a result of good judgment; good judgment is a result of experience, in most cases. And what about experience? Yes, experience is most often a result of bad judgment.

So here’s the good news: The experience gained from bad judgment and bad decisions is unbelievably valuable—it’s priceless! So don’t waste time beating yourself up over poor decisions you’ve made; learn from the experiences. Really, failure is actually one of the best ways we learn. When people succeed, they celebrate. When they fail, they ponder. They stop and think, What happened here? What could I have done differently? It’s only through self-evaluation that we learn how to make better decisions. So, when you make mistakes, learn from them; use your experience to improve your judgment and make better decisions.

The Path to Freedom—Financial or Otherwise

We’re living in extraordinarily difficult times. Every day we read about and experience more challenges, often related to things we can’t control, whether it’s the economy, the environment or unemployment. We can allow the stress and uncertainty caused by these events to overwhelm us or we can transform our lives by making different decisions.

One of the decisions we can make is to live with a mindset of abundance. What I mean by this is if we live as though wealth has more to do with what’s in our minds than what’s in our wallets, if we understand that how we feel is more important than what we have, we can discover an immense sense of freedom and happiness.

Think about it: Do you know anyone who has a lot of money but doesn’t feel free, doesn’t feel loved, doesn’t feel like he has a choice? Sure you do. You may even feel that way yourself. That feeling happens when you’re not in control of your emotions because you’re looking for someone or something external to fill internal needs.

I don’t care what you’ve achieved or how much money you’ve earned, if you live with an attitude of scarcity and limitation, if you wait for someone or something else to fulfill you, you’re not going to be happy. You must make the decision to live with a mentality of abundance, and you will experience true freedom.

It’s Your Time

The Biggest Lessons Learned

willey lollieOn June 1st last year ,I celebrated my 20th anniversary of quitting my job and starting my professional speaking business. When I took my staff to a luncheon celebration, one person asked a thought provoking question. “What are the biggest lessons you learned in your 20 years in business?”

My answer was quick, “Three Simple Things!”

1. Make it important to always pursue your dream!

2. Always be willing to take calculated risks!

3. Always work on building your network!

Dreams

First let’s talk about your dreams! Dreams truly are the seed for success! Scripture says, “Without a vision the people perish!” What goes unsaid is that “With a vision a people can flourish!” You must work on your vision and pursue your dreams with passion and persistence!

If you do, you will see that dreams can and do come true. But you must be willing to find your dream, focus on your dream and then fight for your dream!

As I look back over the last 20 years, I remember writing a list of goals and dreams that I would attempt if I knew I could not fail. It is amazing that I now look at that list and see how many of those dreams have become reality. I have been able to travel around the world speaking, write books that have become best sellers and appear on television and radio. And most importantly, I’ve been able to work with my wife and family! WOW!

Risks

Next is the importance of taking calculated risks! Last weekend I was in High Point NC with my dear friend Nido Qubein (President of High Point University), who often talks about the risk taking formula. I didn’t articulate those 4 questions when I quit my job 20 years ago, yet intuitively, I lived the 4 questions!

First question is “What is the best that can happen if you take this risk?” The second is “What is the worse that can happen if you take this risk?” The third question is “What is the most likely thing to happen if you take this risk?” And the fourth question is the kicker…”Are you willing to live with the worse to get to the best?!!!”

I look back and realize that I lived the questions by saying to myself, “What is the best that can happen”?” My answer is that I can live my dreams and create a national and international presence in the speaking industry and in the process create some wealth!

The next question is “What is the worse that can happen?” The worse would be that I could go bankrupt and could lose my home! Yet, death was not on the list. If I was still alive, I could come back from bankruptcy and could buy another home!”

Third, “What is the most likely thing to happen?” And the answer there was that I figured that it would be hard and I would struggle. But I believed that somehow, someway I would be able to keep my head above water!

And finally, question number four “Are you willing to live with the worse to get to the best?” And it was a resounding YES! I was willing to struggle to live my dreams! I am grateful that in 20 years, I have not missed one mortgage payment, even when I could barely pay the phone and electricity bills! Somehow I was always able to pay my mortgage! I am truly grateful!

Network

Finally, I learned that it is important to build your network!

Like Harvey McKay says, “its best to dig your well before you are thirsty!” In other words, do for others before you need them to do something to help you! I am inspired by all the amazing people who are my friends and in my network. lt is true: your network ultimately does determine your net-worth!

I am grateful for the wonderful experiences and the lessons I’ve learned over the last 20 years. Yet, I truly believe, the best is yet to come!

I would like to give everyone reading this article a special gift. Here is a link to my message, “The best is yet to come!” Plus a free download of my song…”Highly Motivated.” It is one of the most requested songs from my Money Making Music CD/DVD set. I give you this song with my love! It tells my story of stepping out on nothing but faith and a dream. I pray it will inspire and encourage you to keep pursuing your dreams!

Thank you for your support over the past 20 years, and keep your eyes and ears open, because the best truly is yet to come!

God Bless You! -WJ