POWERMINDS DISTINCTION AWARDS AND CHARITY DINNER

Join Nigeria’s number one Personal Development Community as we wrap up this year 2012 in style at our POWERMINDS DISTINCTION AWARDS AND CHARITY DINNER! We will Award Men and women of distinction in our community and Raise N2 million cash and Books, Clothes, food stuff, and relief materials for our displaced Bakassi brothers and a special children’s home in Akwa Ibom State.Join us!

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IT IS IN YOU

When you ask God to make you great , He gives you a talent. Your greatness is in your talent. Ignore your talent and you invariable ignore your greatness. Your talent is whatever you can do with ease. Your talent  is your grace, your lubricant, your oil. Your talent is whatever you possess that you can trade with. It is that which you can exchange for money or fame.
Your talent is  what you can do that  people celebrate you about, those things that move people to laughter or tears. Your talent is whatever you know you can do but others don’t yet know you can do, may be because you  are shy about. Listen to you sing  in the bathroom. Look at those write-ups and articles you have written, volumes of them. Nobody has read them yet.
Your talent is that thing you can do but don’t really think is exceptional yet people appreciate you for it or tell you about it. It is so part of you, you do it with ease. You don’t recognize it yet it woahs others.
Your talent is whatever you can do that stirs up envy and jealousy and criticism. It is that thing you do that draws a teacher to you or draws you to a teacher.
Your talent is that thing that springs forth when you are under pressure. It is your response mechanism to emergency .It is that activity, action or reaction that burst forth under extreme situations of your life. They are the life savers that help you out in those situations. There is a character in you only circumstances can reveal. Heightened tension cracks the concealment of your talent, revealing sputters of its energy on that occasion.
Your talent is a pointer to your reason, your purpose. The presence or absence of a talent is the very essence of your creation. If you discover something then that may be where your destiny lies. If you intend to be a carpenter ,He would most likely give you a nail. What that means is that your talent is your life equipment for your life assignment. Also, the absence of talent but presence of strong desire can also give you a clue about your purpose. There are few things strong desire cannot accomplish. In the place of talent, desire could help one acquire a skill.
An unspoken contest exists: God’s gift to you versus man’s gift to us. Your endowment will always be superior to your conferment. Your potential is of greater value than your credentials. God would put a talent in you. That is His gift to you. Man’s gift to you could be a certificate or a title or an award. You will make more money , attain more fame, influence more people from your talents than from your degree. No Bishop conferment can compare to the man who is called from above. Men will elect you president for 4 to 5 years .Your God given talent will make you a leader that generations would not forget.
Your wisdom is to merge your formal training with your talent. There is no better advice than that. Parents should observe their children early enough and guide them along that path of their inclinations or fascination. Your wisdom is to merge your formal training with your talent. There is no better advice than that. Parents should observe their children early enough and guide them along that path of their inclinations or fascination.
All talents are raw. They need cultivation. Trading your talent is almost impossible until there is training. Here is where mentorship, role-modeling and coaching comes in.
MENTORS. A mentor is that individual in your life who has developed his talent to the point that you admire him. He is close to you. That is ,He has a relationship with you. He guides you.  He has gone ahead of you. He is NOT a friend. A friend loves you the way you are , a friend loves you too much to leave you the way you are.
ROLE-MODELS. A role-model is that individual who inspires you from a distance. You admire the person. But there is most likely no relationship between you and the person. Well, a mentor  can be a role -model but  a role-model is hardly ever your mentor because of the distance between you. You encounter him through his books, tapes , videos etc. He has a similar talent and has cultivated himself to a very high level.
COACH: A coach is that individual in your life that has an unusual ability to bring out the best in you. He has the capacity to train, but doesn’t necessarily have your kind of talent.To succeed, you must locate either a Mentor or Role-model or a Coach. For great talents  observe other greats. Then they submit to the rigours of training and discipline. Training births greatness. Tiger Woods started rigorously training golf from age 9.Serena and Venus Williams, long tennis champs, started at age 4. It  is said that Michael Jackson started extensive music training from age 6. All of them grew into greatness. Michael Jordan, legendary basket ball great, used to practice 100 free throws every single day. Before Tony Robbins became a world renowned motivational speaker, he exposed himself to 700 books on psychology, parapsychology, philosophy and business management. I hear he is the richest motivational speaker in the world. Zig Ziglar delivered 3000 free speeches before he became a renowned and sought after motivational speaker.
You must expose and drill yourself. Go out. See how others are doing it. Read  many books, especially in the area of your talent. Books will expose you to information, to techniques and strategies. Remember that your talent is one of your seeds of greatness, what are you doing about it?

SURVIVING A BREAK UP

Who says men don’t cry? I sat down on the corridor of my 3 bedroom flat sobbing uncontrollably like a baby.I had loved much, given much, worked it hard much. But it had still failed. This is the one I had called the most beautiful girl in the world. Now, she had to leave.She told me it was over.

Today, I have come to believe that what is not yours

is not yours no matter how hard you try.

This break up tore into my soul.
Have you had that kind of experience before?

O I did everything to see that I could to mend that relationship. I knelt down to beg her. I called and called again and again. Told her that I would be whatever she wanted me to be….and all that.

Today, I look back at those days and laugh at how I so behaved. How could I throw away all of my pride? It never occurred to me that I could meet someone FAR BETTER who would accept me the way I was.Flaws and all.

Let me share with you how to survive a break up. You don’t have to be so broken as I was.There is a smarter way.I call it break-up survival strategies

(1)BOW OUT GRACEFULLY WITH YOUR SELF ESTEEM IN TACT. Try to leave the person thinking “He/she is really something” not “Whew! I am glad I am rid of that one”

(2)DO YOUR WEEPING PRIVATELY. Don’t be ashamed to feel sad. It is normal reaction during a time of hurt. Cry, if you have to. But do your crying privately. That is where I got it wrong. I thought shedding tears before her would make a difference. It only ended making me weak.I am sure in her mind she was like: Isn’t this suppose to be George Essien? Many ladies do that. They literally cry helplessly before that man when they should be crying privately before God.

(3)DON’T GET INTO ANOTHER RELATIONSHIP QUICKLY: A mistake most make.It is important that you ask anyone you want to date when his or last relationship broke off.This is important so that you don’t get involved with someone who is still hurting .Give yourself at least 6 months to reflect and reviewing your past relationship before getting into another one.

(4)KEEP YOURSELF BUSY. Get involved in group activities. For me, I plunged myself deeper into PowerMinds Community, a human development organization I had created many years ago. I even began encouraging other people who had similar issues and giving them hope.

You most likely will meet your new man in your place of work or assignment.

One last thing, this will be of tremendous help. Every one who suffers a heart break or tragedy goes through 4 stages. Knowing these three stages enables you go through it gracefully.Here are they.

(a)DENIAL: First the unwillingness to accept that the break up has happened.

(b)ANGER: Anger turned outward.Chances are that one tends to blame others and God for the break up.

(c)ANGER AND GUILT TURNED INWARDS: Blaming yourself for what happened.

(d)GENUINE GRIEF: Weeping and resolution phase. This is the last phase where we cry the ‘last cry’ and it is over.

Remember that your EX had no more fun breaking off with you than you had in receiving the news. Just because this person broke off with you doesn’t mean that no one in the world would want. Your best is yet to come.